I really don’t understand this New Year’s Eve phenomenon of making resolutions. I get wanting to always be the best version of ourselves that we can possibly be. Who doesn’t?
I’m naturally a perfectionist, which is actually not a good thing. When talking about personal development, as a perfectionist, it’s almost impossible to decide how good is good enough to be perfect.
I think the most important question to ask ourselves in the area of self development is “Why do I want this?” and “Does this thing I want relate to my ultimate life goal?”
So this year, instead of making resolutions that will never stick and wasting money on a gym membership that will last 2 weeks and then collect dust, analyze your goals a little bit more. Go further into why you want whatever it is.
Here is mine:
My BIG goal is to be healthier, emotionally and physically, in 2016 than in 2015. I also want to be completely financially independent from my “day job.”
My baby will be 6 years old this summer and I’m still packing some baby weight. Oh. My. Goodness that is frustrating. I’m within a normal BMI and all that stuff, and I know it’s vanity pounds, but at this point I feel like it’s some sort of challenge that my body is giving me and it’s mind over matter and I WILL win this battle.
I’m also wanting to build my business. What I mean by “Financially independent from my day job,” is that I want the flexibility that if I decide that I don’t want to work next year (outside the home) that I don’t have to. This year, I love my job. Because I teach, I have an August-May contract and the decision about whether to come back or not happens every spring. I could very likely come back next year, I just want the option of staying home if I choose.
Instead of making “resolutions” that may or may not stick, and usually they don’t, I’m suggesting that we analyze our BIG goals.
What are the small steps that we need to take that will get us to our BIG goal? If I want to be healthier, I can think about those extra 15-20 pounds I’m tired of looking at. If I want to build my business, I need to think about the small steps that it will take me to where I want to end up.
I need to reverse engineer my plan. I need to think about EXACTLY what I want at the end of 2016. Then I need to think about how I’m going to get there.
It’s a road map. If I want to get to California, I look at exactly where in California I want to be, and then I analyze my mode of transportation as well as each road and stop between here and there. Then I’ll start in Kansas, follow my well thought out roadmap and by the end of 2016, I’ll be in sunny California. (Figuratively, of course, as farms aren’t known for their geographic flexibility.)
So what are your plans? Where is your figurative California? What exactly does that look like? If you are already in your figurative California then what’s next? We are never at the end of our journey. Life is a journey, but if you don’t plan your journey well, you could end up somewhere other than where you want. I wouldn’t be happy anywhere that has longer, colder winters than Kansas. I would really hate to mistakenly take myself to Canada. I don’t mean anything against Canada. I have great friends in Canada. It’s just cold there and I’m not a fan of the cold.
I encourage you to really think about this. Where are you now? Where do you want to be? How are you going to get there?
I put together some free printables for you to work this out on paper. (Available at the bottom of this post.) I made three different choices because we all want choices, right? The content of each download is the same, but they are illustrated in different ways. Pick which one you like, or all of them, and have fun making your roadmap!
You are awesome. Make time for YOU this year. After all, if YOU can’t take care of yourself, and YOU take care of everyone else, who is going to take care of YOU?